How Healthy Is Your Relationship With Your Self?

by Steve Harrison | Absolute Freedom Lifestyle

In modern society, there is a lot of emphasis on your relationship with other people. If you look at magazines and television, everything is focused on how you present yourself to other people. It doesn’t take much to see that your worth is built around how other people view you or at least that’s what many advertisers and companies would want you to believe.

The most important relationship that you can have is the relationship that you have with yourself. If you have a strong sense of self and self-love, then it will be difficult for other people to tell you how you should feel about the things you do. However, with so much pressure from the outside world to look, feel, and act a certain way; it can be challenging to build a strong relationship with yourself.

In modern society, there is a lot of emphasis on your relationship with other people. If you look at magazines and television, everything is focused on how you present yourself to other people. It doesn’t take much to see that your worth is built around how other people view you or at least that’s what many advertisers and companies would want you to believe.

The most important relationship that you can have is the relationship that you have with yourself. If you have a strong sense of self and self-love, then it will be difficult for other people to tell you how you should feel about the things you do. However, with so much pressure from the outside world to look, feel, and act a certain way; it can be challenging to build a strong relationship with yourself.

Here are some essential things that you can do to make sure you have a healthy relationship with yourself.

Mirror Work

Mirror work is a concept in psychology that is very important for people who have a low self-image or low self-esteem. The objective of mirror work is to build your self-worth and self-confidence through various positive affirmations. Depending on your specific area of self-doubt or low self-esteem, your positive statements may be slightly different from the ones that are listed below.

The Huffington post recommends that you look yourself in the eye and tell yourself “I deeply love and accept you.” Other positive affirmations can include:

  1. I am smart.
  2. I am beautiful.
  3. I am confident and competent.
  4. I am worthy.

When you do mirror work and positive affirmations, it is essential to make sure you always speak in the first person. This will help you build your relationship with yourself and boost your self-esteem. In the beginning, these affirmations and mirror work may be uncomfortable, but as you continue to do it, you will begin to believe the affirmations that you set.

 

Understand Unwanted Experiences Vs. Personal Failings

Throughout your life, you have things happen to you that was unplanned and unwanted. For some reason, people internalise adverse experiences is personal failings. Even traumatic experiences become internalized, and people begin to blame themselves for the trauma. Being able to separate yourself from the unwanted experience and remove blame will help you strengthen the love you have for yourself.

Psychology Today recommends that you examine unwanted experiences with a curious mind and learn to accept that they were not something you asked for. For some reason, we believe that when we look back on an unwanted experience or trauma, it will cause us more harm. In reality, understanding that these experiences were not chosen by us, but instead happen to us, can bring a real self-awareness and understanding.

Practice Self-Care

Many different elements go into self-care. Things like meditation, taking time for yourself, and taking care of your personal needs are all critical elements of self-care. All of these elements of self-care are vital in building a healthy relationship with yourself.

  • Taking care of your own needs will help you cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself by making sure all of your physical needs are met.
  • Taking time out for yourself can help you feel refreshed and rejuvenated. Even if the time you take, is a mere 10 minutes to read a book or sit quietly with a cup of coffee. When you take time for yourself, you make yourself a priority.
  • Meditation can help with positive affirmations as well as quite a busy mind. Meditation and prayer are essential to self-care. If you need assistance with meditation, you can visit a local ashram or church, and there are many books out there that are designed to help you get started with meditation and prayer.

These three steps are simple and absolutely essential to making sure you have the foundations for a healthy relationship with yourself. If you neglect your esteem, your well-being, or your needs, you will never have a positive relationship with the most important person in the world, you.

Here are some important things that you can do to make sure you have a healthy relationship with yourself.

Mirror Work

Mirror work is a concept in psychology that is very important for people who have a low self-image or low self-esteem. The objective of mirror work is to build your self-worth and self-confidence through various positive affirmations. Depending on your specific area of self-doubt or low self-esteem, your positive statements may be slightly different from the ones that are listed below.

The Huffington post recommends that you look yourself in the eye and tell yourself “I deeply love and accept you.” Other positive affirmations can include:

  1. I am smart.
  2. I am beautiful.
  3. I am confident and competent.
  4. I am worthy.

When you do mirror work and positive affirmations, it is important to make sure you always speak in the first person. This will help you build your relationship with yourself and boost your self-esteem. In the beginning, these affirmations and mirror work may be uncomfortable, but as you continue to do it, you will begin to believe the affirmations that you set.

Understand Unwanted Experiences Vs. Personal Failings

Throughout the course of your life, you have things happen to you that was unplanned and unwanted. For some reason, people internalise adverse experiences is personal failings. Even traumatic experiences become internalized, and people begin to blame themselves for the trauma. Being able to separate yourself from the unwanted experience and remove blame will help you strengthen the love you have for yourself.

Psychology Today recommends that you examine unwanted experiences with a curious mind and learn to accept that they were not something you asked for. For some reason, we believe that when we look back on an unwanted experience or trauma, it will cause us more harm. In reality, understanding that these experiences were not chosen by us, but instead happen to us, can bring a real self-awareness and understanding.

Practice Self-Care

Many different elements go into self-care. Things like meditation, taking time for yourself, and taking care of your personal needs are all important elements of self-care. All of these elements of self-care are vital in building a healthy relationship with yourself.

  • Taking care of your own needs will help you cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself by making sure all of your physical needs are met.
  • Taking time out for yourself can help you feel refreshed and rejuvenated. Even if the time you take, is a mere 10 minutes to read a book or sit quietly with a cup of coffee. When you take time for yourself, you make yourself a priority.
  • Meditation can help with positive affirmations as well as quite a busy mind. Meditation and prayer are essential to self-care. If you need assistance with meditation, you can visit a local ashram or church, and there are many books out there that are designed to help you get started with meditation and prayer.

These three steps are simple and absolutely essential to making sure you have the foundations for a healthy relationship with yourself. If you neglect your esteem, your well-being, or your needs, you will never have a positive relationship with the most important person in the world, you.

 

To Your Success

Steve Harrison
Founder of:
Absolute Freedom Lifestyle

 

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