#33 DEALING WITH CHANGE

DEALING WITH CHANGE

If there’s one thing that’s inevitable in life, it’s changing. Sometimes those changes are small, but every once in awhile they’re major — think marriage, divorce, loss of a loved one, a new job, having children, going back to school, or buying a house and presently the COVID-19 pandemic. These transitions often uproot our world, sometimes in ways, we aren’t prepared for or don’t want to deal with.

For all the pain, uncertainty, or joy these major life changes bring into our lives, there’s no doubt they can take a toll on our mental health as we try to navigate our way through uncharted territory.

Change is so difficult for many to deal with. Here are some things you can do to make coping with changes in your life a little easier.

Use these tips to help you in dealing with change.

Acceptance

This is probably the biggest step and the most necessary one. Accept that life will always be changing. It’s the one true thing you can depend on above all else. When you and your friends were hanging out in high school, it all changed when you graduated. There are and will be plenty more examples throughout your life.

Don’t Get Too Comfortable

The biggest changes seem to always happen when we are content or comfortable. While there may not be scientific evidence to back this up, you should always be ready for anything that comes your way. When you are comfortable in your situation is when you let your guard down which makes it more of a shock when something does change.

Talk About Your Feelings Towards Change

People tend to let things build up inside. They don’t talk about their situations, or if they do, they don’t talk to the right people. If the changes are at work, for instance, consider talking to your manager about the impact of those changes. Managers are human beings, despite what people otherwise believe. Present your concerns in a professional manner and try not to flare up your anger, even if it isn’t directed at your manager. Bear in mind that your manager may be dealing with the changes much the same as you are.

Try to Turn the Change in Your Favor

The phrase, “turn lemons into lemonade”, has widely been overused. However, it’s hard to deny the meaning of it and the impact from that meaning. If you are dealing with change, in one form or another, see what angles you can use to make it work to your benefit. I recommend you download my recent eBook – When Life Gives You Lemons. We’re going to give you all the tools you need to use those exact things to transform your life into a bundle of joy, happiness, and success.

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Keep Changes You Can Control to a Minimum

If you try to enact too many changes at once, it may overwhelm the people who are affected by them. People need time to absorb those changes and incorporate them into their lives. If you bombard them with a bunch of changes, they will likely rebel, and you will be left picking up the pieces. Sometimes, the changes you put into place, can’t be helped. But, if you do have control over them, try to introduce them slowly over time.

Join Support Groups

Some changes will impact people where they need the support of others. This can happen when death strikes or some long-term illness. It could be trying to give up a type of addiction, etc. There may be other types of changes where people need to reach out. Seek out the help of others who are going through similar circumstances as you are.

Trust Your Instincts

People may be forced into situations or decisions that go against what they believe in. If you find yourself in such a situation, it’s best to go with your gut or trust your instincts. If the change doesn’t feel right and you have no power to counter it, try to remove yourself from the situation if you feel strongly about it.

Change Can Lead to Unforeseen Opportunities

This goes in line a bit with the lemonade from lemons, but when you start to focus on change being something that is good, opportunities will be more open to you. They have a way of finding you. These opportunities may not have presented themselves had the changes not occurred.

ACTIONABLE STEPS

Forcibly make more changes in your life to get used to dealing with change. This could be something as simple as signing up for a gym membership and actually using it.

Handle anything you are required to do because of changes that have taken place. As an example, if you have been let go by your company, make sure you create a budget that can help you survive the possibility of extended unemployment.

Think back to recent changes that you have had to deal with. List several items (if possible) where you would have handled those situations differently than you did.

Change is not only inevitable, but it can also lead to beautiful opportunities, even when they come from the deepest wells of pain and loss. When we greet uncertainty and the unknown with self-care, self-love, and support, we have a much better chance of maintaining our mental health during major life changes and finding our way to a future that holds many new adventures.

Thanks for reading! See you on the next one! and don’t forget to download your copy of WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU LEMONS.

To Your success – Steve Harrison.